Hello My Lovelies,
College is the first time in your life when you really must start learning to advocate for yourself. The frustrating part is that as a college student the expectation is that you cannot advocate for yourself because you do not yet know what you need. This is not true and in my opinion, the whole point of college is to learn how to both stand up for yourself and can support the decisions you make.
I have just gone through quite an ordeal with on of the staff at my college. Since I am a transfer student this makes me a typical case when considering when is best to take classes and which class to take during each semester. When you going into a school as a freshman you have a set list of classes with a bit of leeway but mostly everything is set out for you. However with me, many changes and alterations had to be made since I came into my school at essentially the half way point. You wouldn’t think this would be a big deal but it is enough of a deal to alter my course of study. I had to learn to not only keep strong on what I believed in but have reasons in why my ideas where the best course of action. With this experience, I have a few tips if you are also having a bit of a fight regarding your schedule or really any situation where someone above you does not think you are capable of holding your own.
- Never go to a Meeting Angry.
They already have this idea in their head that you are not fully capable of making, in this case, your own academic decision. Do not give them any more reason to believe this is true. When communicating too them or anyone involved in anyway stay calm and composed. You have to be the bigger person even if the first thing you want to do is cover their mouth in duct tape to keep the stupid things from coming out.
- Keep Everything in Writing
Try to keep your conversations to email or record what they have said. Never paraphrase and always be prepared to give the information in print. This is useful if you need to go above their head to a supervisor. If you can’t reproduce the problem, it will become your word against theirs and sadly you will probably loose.
- If Possible Cut Them Out of the Equation
If you have a direct supervisor or in this case, academic adviser (that is not the individual you are having an issue with) try to only speak with them. This way you will be more comfortable with them and more at ease to say what you really think instead of a shinier finished version. Chances are you are not the first case in which this certain member of the staff is getting involved more than needed.If you need to don’t be afraid to go in the opposite direction and go above them. Go to their supervisor and make a report. You are the one paying for tuition and as the person signing the check you are in control of what you take and when. Don’t let anyone try to make you feel like you are not unless they say they are willing to start chippin in on the bill. In that case, have at it.
4. Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself
At the end of the day, you know what is best for you and what will bring you to success. Do not let others discourage you and do not give up because it is what is at first glance easier. Trust your gut and others will follow suit.
I love you all and hope you are not put in this situation, but if you are I hope this helps. If you have a similar story or have a tip I didn’t include please write it in the comments. I would love to know any other things I could do if I come by this situation again!